Time to Make The #Mommitment. No More Mum Wars Any More. Or Dads. Or Carers. No More!

This was taken on the Tubblet’s last day at Junior school.  Three classes made up of approximately 90 children. They wrote their hopes and dreams on a balloon and let them go.

Meeting them, you can tell the ones who are cheeky, shy, confident, outgoing, academic, sporty, practical … You can tell the ones who’ve been bought up to be well mannered, polite, considerate of others … etc.

What you can’t tell is the ones who were bottle or breast feed.  Who co-slept until aged one or had their own room from birth.  Had parents who practiced attachment parenting or the other sort.  Who was weaned on purees or real food.  Which ones were born via Cesarean or vagina or … or … Whatever the latest battle ground of the parenting wars, once the child is out and about, you can’t tell.  Not at all.  However hard you look.  Sorry.  No visible differences at all.  

Maybe a t-shirt?!  

My name is the Tubblet.

Bottle Fed.

Working mum and (ex)-stay at home dad.
Loves Lego.
Wants a puppy.

Which makes me wonder, how much any of these things actually matters?!  As long as a child is loved, fed, encouraged and nurtured; disciplined fairly and given boundaries; safe and isn’t ill-treated or belittled, does it really matter how any of this is done?  Probably not.

Is it anyone else’s business?  No it isn’t.

Should we feel ashamed of our choices?  No.  We're doing the best we can in our particular circumstances.

Are people who berate or shame others in person or online for not making the same parental choices as them just bullies?  Yes they are!  Less fearless warrior and defender of …More tiresome, small, minded, bullying busybody.  Who really needs to get over themselves and find a life.  Offer advice if you want, but accept other people’s right to get on with the job in their own way.  

Ultimately, we’re all on the same side.  Mothers. Fathers.  Parents.  Carers. We all want the same thing.  Happy, well-adjusted children.  We're all doing it differently.  And we're all doing it right. We are all the best people to look after our children.  

And, why, after Tayla’s post over at Motherhood The Real Deal, I’m making the #mommitment.  (Or, in my case, the mummitment).  

Are you with me?!  Make the #mommitment too.  Dads welcome too.  Read the manifesto, sign the petition,  follow them on twitter and to grab the button.  Or, at the very least, bite your tongue next time someone says something about their parenting choices that you don't agree with.  Let's do this thing!

No More Mum Wars Any More!  Or Dads.  Or Carers.  No More!

Can anyone come up with positive things to say about the endless Mum Wars?!  Anyone?!   Anyone?!  Thought not ...

[ETA: The T&Cs.  We don't need the parenting fascist groove thing, but I accept the need for it to exist if your parenting choices impact others.  For example:  You may believe in free expression and no boundaries. I believe my child has the right to wander about the playground without being punched in the face or having stuff snatched from her.  And vaccinations.  These are not an optional extra, but a matter of life and death.  Literally].

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