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House Rules That Now Make Sense

Monday, 6 July 2015

When I was a child, I never understood parental gems like, "No shoes on the bed ...", but now I am a parent I do.  

Here are some things I insist the Tubblet does.  Despite hating having to do them myself when I was the same age.  Or not even doing them at all.  Do as I say not as I did.  Sorry mum and dad!

Teddy on a bed


  • Make the bed.  Everyday.
  • Don't wear shoes in the house.
  • Live within your means.  No pocket money top ups if what you've been given on Saturday is all spent by Monday.
  • No television after 10pm.  
  • No phone calls after 9pm.
  • Keep the place tidy and clean up after yourself.
  • Turn off the lights when you're not in the room.  
  • Turn off things you're not using.
  • Eat your greens.  And its variant, if you don't eat what's on your plate, there's nothing else.
  • Wash everything up before you leave the house or go to bed.
  • No elbows on the table.
  • Hang up your coat and put your clothes away.

Are you now enforcing rules that make you roll your eyes when you were a child?  Let me know which ones in the comments.

ETA:  Rev T has read this and asked me to let you know that I am, and I quote, a "fraudy, fraud pants".  I'd tell you that the quality of conversation in our house is usually better than that, but ... um ...  I'm still not very tidy.


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  1. Unknown6 July 2015 at 09:33

    great post I think children respond well to firm boundaries as it gives a sense of safety and stability. #mummymonday

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    1. Tubbs6 July 2015 at 16:50

      True, but it's that moment when you start saying something and can hear your parent's voice in your head that weirds me out every time! Thank you for the comment.

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  2. Anonymous6 July 2015 at 09:49

    Sounds like a good set of rules! I can't wait till my son's old enough to understand things like this! #AnythingGoes

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    1. Tubbs6 July 2015 at 16:50

      Thank you. It's strange how they make no sense until you're the one trying to impose them.

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  3. Anonymous6 July 2015 at 10:03

    I have 4 children and often say things to them and afterwards think I sound just like my mother!

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    1. Tubbs6 July 2015 at 16:50

      So glad it's not just me! Thank you for commenting

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  4. A Green and Rosie Life6 July 2015 at 10:53

    I remember as a child not understanding why I wasn't allowed to do certain things - now I make sure I always explain why the boys should do (or NOT do) the things we ask so they may still moan but at least in time I hope they'll moan less and understand more!

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    1. Tubbs6 July 2015 at 16:51

      I wonder if what we say and what they hear are completely different, but we've tried that as well. With varying degrees of success. Thank you for commenting.

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  5. Spectrum Mum6 July 2015 at 11:05

    Yes I am doing most if not all of these. Although shoes I tolerate downstairs (no carpets) but upstairs definitely not. I make my kids take their dinner plates into the kitchen too when they are finished and they have to wait at the table until everyone is ready or ask to be excused. Gosh I sound awful!!!
    #mummymonday

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    1. Tubbs6 July 2015 at 16:51

      Nope, perfectly normal!

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  6. Eva Lewis (The Multitasking Woman)6 July 2015 at 12:31

    Well my son is still only 3 and isn't talking on the phone or receiving pocket money, but it's definitely shoes off before going in the house, no shoes on the bed, please and thank you. I'm still trying to teach him about putting toys away and making the bed. I just can't start my day without beds being made...it's so untidy (I did tend to disagree with this when I was young though).

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    1. Tubbs6 July 2015 at 16:52

      I'm always trying to get the Tubblet to be more tidy - despite the fact that I was never tidy at the same age.

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  7. Anonymous6 July 2015 at 13:12

    Completely reasonable rules! My mum's weird one was cleaning the house before we went away so we'd have a nice clean house to come back to. I do that now too. I thought everyone did until my wife pointed out that it was a little odd.

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    1. Tubbs6 July 2015 at 16:53

      That's not weird, it's normal. We do that. Thank you for commenting.

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    2. Joanne Dewberry6 July 2015 at 19:01

      I do this too! Clean house is much needed after time away!

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    3. Tubbs8 July 2015 at 10:00

      Yay!

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  8. Joanne Dewberry6 July 2015 at 19:00

    Haha that moment whe we realise we are our mothers!! I find myself saying and doing things all the time I disliked as a child!

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    1. Tubbs6 July 2015 at 19:53

      It's weird the first time it happens isn't it?! Thank you for commenting

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  9. Random Musings7 July 2015 at 00:40

    Those rules all seem reasonable - although I'm not sure the Tubblet would agree lol
    Thanks for linking to #AnythingGoes
    Debbie
    www.myrandommusings.blogspot.com

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    1. Tubbs8 July 2015 at 10:12

      She doesn't! Rev T would also like the world to know I'm actually not very good at following my own rules. Thank you for hosting and have a lovely week

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  10. Megan - Truly Madly Kids7 July 2015 at 10:52

    Funny! I get annoyed with my daughter's friends face timing all the time, just like my Dad used to get annoyed with my friends calling the home line all the time!!

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    1. Tubbs8 July 2015 at 11:02

      And the endless texting ... And trying to work out what to do about online access. It never ends!

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  11. jeremy@thirstydaddy7 July 2015 at 12:52

    I just wrote a post about making the teenager stay home every once in a while, something I hated when I was that age.

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    1. Tubbs8 July 2015 at 11:03

      Have you apologized to your parents yet?!

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  12. Anonymous7 July 2015 at 13:27

    Gosh, all the time, some of the rules are in place purely for me sanity though! xx #TwinklyTuesday

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    1. Tubbs8 July 2015 at 11:03

      Indeed! I need to be better about following them myself!

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  13. Unknown8 July 2015 at 09:31

    You know, about a month ago I discovered the 3 magic words - The rule is and since then I have had a lot less issues to deal with with my toddler. House rules, and rules are so important. Kids need boundaries even though we once rolled our eyes at them! Thanks for linking up to #wineandboobs

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    1. Tubbs8 July 2015 at 11:04

      Genius! Pure genius!

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  14. Unknown8 July 2015 at 12:01

    Quite often I open my mouth and my mother falls out! Boundaries and rules are really important but I also think it's important to explain WHY we have the rule - no shoes in the house so we don't trek filth in from outside, eat your veg so you grow up big and strong, etc. Rules without context can be harder to follow. #bestandworst

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    1. Tubbs8 July 2015 at 21:33

      True. Short and simple explanations work best IME. But it is weird the way you open your mouth and can hear your mum. Most disconcerting. Thank you for commenting

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  15. Random Musings8 July 2015 at 15:43

    Back again from #myfavouritepost :)
    Debbie
    www.myrandommusings.blogspot.com

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    1. Tubbs8 July 2015 at 21:34

      Boo! Thank you for the return visit

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  16. Anonymous8 July 2015 at 20:20

    Great post, couldn't agree more. I laugh at myself that I now sound like my mother.

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    1. Tubbs8 July 2015 at 21:34

      Thank you. Have a lovely day

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  17. Helen - Blogging Beautifully8 July 2015 at 21:36

    Great post. I am always creating rules for my toddler and think I used to have this rule when I was younger. One of my rules (used) to be no watching TV at the table however that rule is often broken for an easier life (bad Mummy I know!). Thanks for linking up to the #bestandworst :)

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    1. Tubbs8 July 2015 at 22:01

      We had the no TV during meals rule as well. It's relaxed a bit now the Tubblet's older for the same reason. Sometimes you've just got to,do,what you've got to do to get things done. Thank you for hosting

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  18. Unknown8 July 2015 at 21:36

    I just hope that as a parent I never have to say the words "do as I say, not as I do" when I have tripped over my own rules because I have created so many! I am useless at maintain a routine, so it is highly likely I will fall in to this trap #myfavouritepost

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    1. Tubbs8 July 2015 at 22:04

      I hope that I'll never sappy that either, but I'm still not very tidy. Thank you for commenting

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  19. Unknown9 July 2015 at 14:03

    Haha Emma's not quite old enough but I'm sure I'll be exactly the same! Love how he calls you fraudy fraud pants! Brilliant! #brilliantblogposts

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    1. Tubbs11 July 2015 at 21:20

      It's one of his politer comments! Thank you for commenting

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  20. Unknown9 July 2015 at 23:11

    Yep... We have very similar rules in our house! I spend most of my day walking between rooms turning things off!

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    1. Tubbs11 July 2015 at 21:21

      Something's are universal I think. I'm sure I need to go and check a few sockets ... Thank you for commenting

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  21. Anonymous10 July 2015 at 07:08

    Awww we have the same rules in the house but the shoes. We are renting in a really really cold place so the shoes stays sadly!

    #sharewithme

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    1. Tubbs11 July 2015 at 21:25

      Keeping warm is the most important rule! Thank you for commenting and looking forward to your Sunday photo

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  22. Unknown10 July 2015 at 13:37

    Lol I sometimes worry that I am actually turning into my mum with the things that come out of my mouth lol! #momsterslinkup

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    1. Tubbs11 July 2015 at 21:26

      That moment when you hear their phrases in your voice is very weird! Thank you for commenting

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  23. mumturnedmom10 July 2015 at 14:11

    Yes, we have very similar rules in our house, and I open my mouth to find my mothers voice coming out so often... but, on the whole, she was right :) #pocolo

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    1. Tubbs11 July 2015 at 21:26

      You only realise how right when you have children of your own!

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  24. Anonymous10 July 2015 at 15:38

    I totally agree, although until I read your post I didn't realise that I have actually turned into my mother ha ha! Have a great weekend xx #momsterslinkup

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    1. Tubbs11 July 2015 at 21:27

      I hope that realisation hasn't freaked you out too much!

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  25. Mummaknows10 July 2015 at 17:36

    The only one I wouldn't use (enforce!) is the elbows on the table....since I think I'm probably guilty of that! Don't judge :) :)

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    1. Tubbs11 July 2015 at 21:28

      That's why I shared Rev T's comment. I'm trying to make the Tubblet tidier but am not exactly leading by example.

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  26. Mummaknows10 July 2015 at 17:36

    Oops #momsterslink

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  27. Anonymous10 July 2015 at 20:54

    Oh there's so many things I never said I'd do and then I find myself doing them!! I literally hear my mom's voice in my head haha Not many rules here yet, S is a bit young. Thanks for linking up to #happyquacks x

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    1. Tubbs11 July 2015 at 21:29

      Thank you for hosting! Have a lovely week

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  28. Unknown10 July 2015 at 21:31

    Eating in the kitchen unless an official indoor picnic. shoes off. Shoes and coat away. I am sure I will think of more. Oh chores. they have them too, we call it 'family work'. It is funny when we can hear our parents words coming from our own mouths. #momsterlink

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    1. Tubbs11 July 2015 at 21:30

      It is! Thank you for commenting and such thoughtful posts that always show me something new

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  29. Unknown10 July 2015 at 21:38

    Haha, I think I am actually worse than my own mother now. #momsterslink

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    1. Tubbs11 July 2015 at 21:30

      Excellent!

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  30. Emily Twin Mummy and Daddy11 July 2015 at 20:25

    Shoes on the furniture, making the beds and turning the lights off when you leave the room were all things I used to get told off for, but now I find myself saying them to my own children. I totally get it now! I'm paranoid about my sofa's getting dirty so I'm always checking my girls hands to make they're clean. Thanks for linking up to the #BinkyLinky

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    1. Tubbs11 July 2015 at 21:31

      I phoned my parents to apologise! I never got it when I was young but understand completely now

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  31. Luke Strickland11 July 2015 at 21:13

    Funny how wise our parents' advice becomes in time! Enjoyed this a lot :) #bigfatlinky

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    1. Tubbs11 July 2015 at 21:32

      Glad you enjoyed it. Have a lovely week

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  32. Unknown12 July 2015 at 15:38

    The rules are simple and easy to follow great post thanks for linking to the Binkylinky :)

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    1. Tubbs13 July 2015 at 12:52

      Thank you for hosting each week.

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  33. Sadia12 July 2015 at 18:20

    Very insightful. I'm in an odd spot. My parents didn't really have rules, which was very disconcerting as a child. There was no way to predict what would and would not result in an outburst from my mother. On day, wearing shoes in the house would cause a tongue-lashing, and the following day I'd be berated from going barefoot. What I learned from that was a nearly obsessive commitment to consistency. My daughters KNOW that rules aren't negotiable without some very, very, very good reason, such as a proven increase in taking responsibility or research that shows that there's a better way.

    Thanks for linking with the always consistent #TwinklyTuesday. ;)

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    1. Tubbs13 July 2015 at 12:53

      You need some rules and they need to be consistent for them to work. What you're describing must have been very difficult to understand. Thank you for hosting each week. Hope all is well.

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  34. Unknown12 July 2015 at 21:11

    I hear my mum all the time and I swore as a kid I'd never be like her with all her rules! Er..yep - we have quite a few here too - mainly aimed at reducing my work load around the house clearing up everyone!

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    1. Tubbs13 July 2015 at 12:53

      Sometimes it really can't be helped! Thank you for commenting

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  35. Ali 12 July 2015 at 23:07

    I think i probably have more rules than my mum to be honest but I'm rubbish at enforcing them all the time Ali from Mum in a Nutshell guest hosting at #PocoLo

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    1. Tubbs13 July 2015 at 12:54

      I need to be better at that too - and at following my own rules! Thank you for guest hosting this week

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  36. Let's Talk Mommy13 July 2015 at 03:57

    I can hear my own mother as well as myself saying all these things too. It's funny how we become just like them in that sense. if only we understood that growing up there would have been less tantruming and head butting. lol :) Not physically of course. Thank you so much for linking up to Share With Me #sharewithme

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    1. Tubbs13 July 2015 at 12:55

      I know what you mean, but learning is part of the process. Thank you for hosting each week

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  37. Unknown13 July 2015 at 22:30

    I dream of being able to enforce these kind of rules, however I'm lacking in one vital skin. Consistency eludes me, even as a parent so I don't even try. I let Daddy sort it! Thanks for linking up with #MyFavouritePost

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    1. Tubbs14 July 2015 at 10:32

      Rev T is way better than me at that sort of thing as well. Thank you for hosting and have a lovely week

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  38. Anonymous14 July 2015 at 10:00

    YepI am that person too!! Love the comment at the end 'a fraudy fraud pants' ... I do believe I might be one of those too!
    #TheList
    Sammy x

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    1. Tubbs14 July 2015 at 10:32

      High five!

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      High five!

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  39. Unknown14 July 2015 at 16:07

    Dear Mrs Tubbs,

    The snorting that passes as laughing has ended - I identified with each and every one of the listed house rules and then some, lol. Great piece!

    Take care, K-A

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      Thank you! Glad I made you laugh :)

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  40. Unknown15 July 2015 at 12:27

    I completely agree with most of them, especially with the money one and eating what's on your plate! Yes, I'm vegan, which for some people passes as picky, but I eat EVERYTHING. if it's given to me, I'll eat it, because it's just the way it should be.

    Although, I wouldn't force 'No elbows on the table.' I think... It is not bad, sure, but I'm not sure whether I'd make a rule out of it.

    How is it going with these rules over at your place?

    Milly
    www.sevenseasaway.com

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    1. Tubbs16 July 2015 at 09:46

      Mixed success! Being vegan isn't picky, for most of the vegans I know it's a matter of conscience. I admire people who can do it, but am not sure I could. We try and buy cruelty free cosmetics etc. We buy meat from the local farm so the Tubblet knows where meat comes from and we know the animals have had a good life. She's refusing to eat lamb as a result "because they're cute", but that's okay!

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  41. Unknown17 July 2015 at 09:46

    I HATE shoes on in the house but it seems that everyone does it! AHHHH #bigfatlinky

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    1. Tubbs17 July 2015 at 22:57

      Slippers are made of win ... Hope you're having a good week and thank,you for hosting

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  42. yespeasmumma29 July 2015 at 03:21

    Yes! I hated these rules as a kid, but I too enforce the same in my own household. I feel like a dork saying them, but they are important.

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    1. Tubbs6 August 2015 at 13:09

      You only realise the why when you've got a house of your own. When you're younger, if you've cleared a path through the Lego, then what's the problem!

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  43. Su3 April 2017 at 10:03

    Haha! I can relate to a lot of this. It's the "eat your green". I sound like my mum! lol! Thank you so much for linking up with us on #FabFridayPost xx

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      We've all been there! That moment when we open our mouths and our mum jumps out.

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