Mother's Day is an odd celebration as how you relate to it totally depends on your circumstances.
It may be a great day to enjoy with your children or your mum. It may be a miserable day as you long for children and don't have them. Or your relationship with the ones you have is challenging. It could be yet another reminder that your much loved mum is gone. Or that the mum you got wasn't the mum you needed. (Tommy's have launched a campaign to remind us that regardless of the number of babies in our arms or under our feet, #WeAreAllMums)
I've very mixed feelings about it. Getting a card, a present and a hug from the Tubblet is lovely. Being reminded that my mum has died, not so much. I try to focus on the "mothering" aspect. Mothering is comes in all shapes and sizes and from various sources. Not always the ones you expect. Giving thanks for those who have mothered me over the years and who get mothered by me. (Whether they want to be or not!)
I love the lyrics from "This is to Mother You" by Sinead O'Connor:
"This is to mother you
To comfort you and get you through
Through when your nights are lonely
Through when your dreams are only blue
This is to mother you
This is to be with you
For child I am so glad I've found you
Although my arms have always been around you
Sweet bird although you did not see me
I saw you
And I'm here to mother you ..."
Whatever you're doing today, I hope you're having a good one.
Happy Mother's Day
[Disclosure: Tommy's fund research into the causes and prevention of pregnancy complications that lead to miscarriage, stillbirth and premature birth. They also provide pregnancy health information for parents-to-be. This post was scheduled, but I added the link and hashtag after reading Laura at Five Little Dove's post, We Are All Mums. Have tissues at the ready before clicking. You'll need them].