Many young people will be getting ready to leave for University around now. For many of them, this will be the first time they have lived away from home. Exciting times!
As the Prime Minister has discovered, what happens at University doesn't always stay at University. It can come back to haunt you later in life. Whatever the truth of #piggate or #baeofpigs, Cameron may now regret accepting that invitation to join a drinking club.
As well as making sure the young person has the practical life skills needed to make the transition from home to independent living at University successfully, it's important to make sure they also have the social skills. It's time for The Talk. Not about the mechanics of sex, but about consent.
Making sure that they understand that consensual sex is the only way. And that consent isn't always the absence of no. It must be a clear and uncoerced yes!
This is a conversation for both boys and girls.
This is where it all gets awkward. Attempts to have The Talk with the Tubblet were waved away because, "We'd done that at school and it's disgusting" . No one wants to have that conversation, but it's best to do it before they leave. As the survey findings below show, there seems to be some confusion about when rape is okay.
But rape is not okay. NEVER EVER.
It's also important for the young person to understand that if something happens, it's not their fault. No matter what they wear, what they did, where they went or what they've drunk or taken.
Don't blame the victim. No means no.
The CPS and Rape Crisis have prepared a video to help get the conversation started. This may not be one of the discussions you wanted to have just before dropping them off at University. But it could be one of the most important conversations you have with your son or daughter:
[Disclosure statement: This is a sort of sponsored post. Claire who blogs over at ClaireLouise who volunteers at Peterborough Rape Crisis Care Group, part of Rape Crisis England & Wales, asked bloggers to raise awareness of the #ConsentIs campaign during fresher's week. So I am. I received no payment for this post. All opinions are my own].
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